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Phir Mile Sur

Another Republic Day comes and goes; and I am still trying to find a meaning on being an Indian. A lot has been talked about our culture, our diversity but I ask myself today do I really care. Does it matter to me when as I blog right now, a lady is being stalked and hunted down by a pack of wolves, a house is getting robbed, another politician has lied his way to the assembly and thousands are starving to death somewhere in Orissa.

I read news clipping on the new version of “Mile Sur Mera Tumhara”; and see us doing the same old things again and again. While we have made half-hearted attempts at spreading the message of patriotism; we tend to forget the ideals laid down by the founding father of the constitution.

In the pages of history perhaps Baba Ambedkar should be held on the highest pedestal, but has been forgotten and sent to the pages where he is only known as a champion of the oppressed classes. Amazingly sidelined by Nehru, this genius only wins votes for the likes Behanji now.

So while we claim to be a “Sovereign Socialist Democracy”; I leave you with this thought.

A good deed a day makes the song meaningful. What good did you do today?

As for the song, Phir Mile Sur, in many ways represents what the youth today represent. Partying hard when they want to but going home at the end of the day to touch mom’s feet. That works for me.

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The Tipping Points

Its not end of the line

It's not end of the line

It’s that time of the year when we talk about our New Year resolutions and how the past year went by, in all probabilities pretty quickly. This post is not about all that; let’s just call this the ‘Tipping Points”.

I had interesting phone conversations yesterday. The first one was with Mom. I think this was the first time she ever discussed marriage with me.
“You are not going to be settled for a while, you know that”
“Yes, I know. What settlement are you referring to by the way?”
“Work and marriage”
“You know I can’t plan either! What about it by the way?”
“Do you have someone in mind?”
“I thought I did, but don’t think it will work out”
“If you don’t find someone, you tell me OK! I am really keen on finding someone; you can of course reject if you don’t like her!”
“Oh! Geez MOM! I’ll do the searching myself and I am only 25 years old and you just said I am not settled in anyway; and would be probably living like a pauper in Mumbai”
“Ok Ok. Don’t get upset; I just want to tell you that just because we don’t talk about it, we don’t think about it. We do”
For a reckless 25 year old, marriage is a funny institution. I do believe if the person is right I would step into it and go ahead with it. I don’t think one should plan life. Its most unpredictable, very much like I am. It’s got nothing to do with age, settling down at work.
I called my akka in the evening. Of all the things that are going on; and what would be coming up in the future she mentioned something about a portfolio career. Funny I use the word career since I decided to drop it off from my vocabulary. She explained it pretty well; when quits a regular job and gets into building oneself as a product. I am a sales guy; why not sell oneself? It’s a way of looking at your career based on different skills that you bring to the table instead of industry or jobs (the traditional route). And if you have more than one skill, dependency on a specific line of work is reduced. So you have a portfolio of services that you offer instead of having a uni-dimensional profile that suits a particular type of opportunities.
It’s a monumental shift in the way we look at the work we do. It reminded me of the last day at work when my ex-boss said “Saying it is one thing and doing it another! Wish you all the best Vineet”. Well, here it is: Cheers to a new beginning towards a portfolio career!
The last conversation I had was with Anupama. I had started packing and selling of things at home; and was feeling a bit low. It’s funny how the things you grew up with; need to be let go off eventually and somewhere down the line one has to move on. I was telling her about the tumbler I have had for the past 7 years and like drinking water from that. I bought it for 20 bucks in a shop in Bangalore. I sold off my car, my bike, the almirah I used and things that give you the comfort of being your own. It’s weird but things that have no life tend develop a soul of their own.
I am moving to Mumbai in less than a week to make a fresh start; without any New Year resolutions. I believe in HOPE and like it was said in Shawshank Redemption
“Hope is a good thing, maybe the best of things, and no good thing ever dies”
I hope to find that love and peace, the fun associated with work and joy of keeping memories and moving on and taking everything in its stride, because the best is yet to come and we have no clue what’s in store!

I had interesting phone conversations yesterday. The first one was with Mom. I think this was the first time she ever discussed marriage with me.

“You are not going to be settled for a while, you know that”

“Yes, I know. What settlement are you referring to by the way?”

“Work and marriage”

“You know I can’t plan either! What about it by the way?”

“Do you have someone in mind?”

“I thought I did, but don’t think it will work out”

“If you don’t find someone, you tell me OK! I am really keen on finding someone; you can of course reject if you don’t like her!”

“Oh! Geez MOM! I’ll do the searching myself and I am only 25 years old and you just said I am not settled in anyway; and would be probably living like a pauper in Mumbai”

“Ok Ok. Don’t get upset; I just want to tell you that just because we don’t talk about it, we don’t think about it. We do”

For a reckless 25 year old, marriage is a funny institution. I do believe if the person is right I would step into it and go ahead with it. I don’t think one should plan life. Its most unpredictable, very much like I am. It’s got nothing to do with age, settling down at work.

I called my Akka in the evening. Of all the things that are going on; and what would be coming up in the future she mentioned something about a portfolio career. Funny I use the word career since I decided to drop it off from my vocabulary. She explained it pretty well; when quits a regular job and gets into building oneself as a product. I am a sales guy; why not sell oneself? It’s a way of looking at your career based on different skills that you bring to the table instead of industry or jobs (the traditional route). And if you have more than one skill, dependency on a specific line of work is reduced. So you have a portfolio of services that you offer instead of having a uni-dimensional profile that suits a particular type of opportunities.

It’s a monumental shift in the way we look at the work we do. It reminded me of the last day at work when my ex-boss said “Saying it is one thing and doing it another! Wish you all the best Vineet”. Well, here it is: Cheers to a new beginning towards a portfolio career!

The last conversation I had was with Anupama. I had started packing and selling of things at home; and was feeling a bit low. It’s funny how the things you grew up with; need to be let go off eventually and somewhere down the line one has to move on. I was telling her about the tumbler I have had for the past 7 years and like drinking water from that. I bought it for 20 bucks in a shop in Bangalore. I sold off my car, my bike, the almirah I used and things that give you the comfort of being your own. It’s weird but things that have no life tend develop a soul of their own.

I am moving to Mumbai in less than a week to make a fresh start; without any New Year resolutions. I believe in HOPE and like it was said in Shawshank Redemption:

Hope is a good thing, maybe the best of things, and no good thing ever dies

I hope to find that love and peace, the fun associated with work and joy of keeping memories and moving on and taking everything in its stride, because the best is yet to come and we have no clue what’s in store!

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Clenching the Fists of Dissent

Anil's life turned upside down thanks to the court casesThis post should have come a bit early, with the writer’s block I am going through and the fact that I had still get my thoughts in place to write this one; please do excuse me.
I was in Bangalore the previous week for the Social Causes Blogger Meet proposed by Roshni, whose objective was to participate along with Social activists (Men’s Rights Activists) to focus on the Rights of Daughters in their own Natal Homes. Many NGOs were part of this and they also wanted to highlight false allegations against Men and In-laws. If I were to sum it up; it was a half-day’s Conference on Men’s Rights, Women’s Rights (Mother-in-laws & Daughters), Child rights and Family welfare.
Some of the participating NGOs in the meet that was on MG Road were:
Save Indian Family Foundation, Bangalore (and other state chapters)
Children’s Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting, Bangalore
All India Forgotten Women, Hyderabad
Child’s Rights and Family Welfare, Mumbai
What was interesting to note was, most of the movements we caught up with started off as blogs or forum discussions. They eventually grew in number and more liked minded people joined in and formed more organized movements.
Anil Kumar, one of the founders of SIFF was kind enough to share the complete details including the court cases pending on him. Virag, the flamboyant PR Officer for SIFF himself was a victim of abuse by his in-laws and ex-wife. Just to show his “affection” for her, he even wore his marriage suit with a placard which read: MY WIFE GIFTED ME A LAW SUIT!”
Mithun, the ‘official photographer’ too had a similar story as Virag, perhaps one of the reasons why they get along so well! Kumar Jahgirdar, the ex-husband of Anil Kumble’s wife; was unceremoniously parted from his daughter. Does parental abduction resort to child abuse?
We talk about a lot of injustice that is meted upon women, and the laws are also in place to help and support them. With all the hype surrounding wife beatings, crazy in-laws I think we missed out somewhere, about protecting men. It’s crazy when you hear stuff like a wife putting a rape case on this one person on the first night; then demanding 30K extortion money to keep quiet.
Sandip, who heads CRFW has his own story – of his in laws and ex-wife demanding maintenance money to the tune of approximately 60K a month. That is a lot of money to maintain oneself. What does she plan to do with all the money? Really!
What came up strongly Domestic Violence is not a gender issue, men and children are victims too. It could be you, it could be me.
Roshni and Savio, from SIFF were there to also throw more light about the movement. In her blog, she discusses a lot of issues pertaining to family welfare. Coming from a background of child abuse herself, she is an inspiration for many women and children. Their son, Judah a gaming enthusiast is also a child activist, who did share a few things with the crowd.
Save Indian Family Foundation, Bangalore is an NGO dedicated to promote the cause of Gender Equality and Family Harmony. We commandeer the cause of those grief stricken families who are victimized by the misuse of laws like Section 498A of the Indian Penal Code, Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act, Section 125 CrPC, Child Custody laws to name a few.
A few other blogs you can visit are:

Anil's life turned upside down thanks to the court cases

Anil Challa inaugurated the dharna in style

This post should have come a bit early, with the writer’s block I am going through and the fact that I had still get my thoughts in place to write this one; please do excuse me.

The DV act was made to destroy the Indian Family, its perfectly used for that

I was in Bangalore the previous week for the Social Causes Dharna and Blogger Meet proposed by Roshni, whose objective was to participate along with Social activists (Men’s Rights Activists) to focus on the Rights of Daughters in their own Natal Homes. Many NGOs were part of this and they also wanted to highlight false allegations against Men and In-laws. If I were to sum it up; it was a half-day’s Conference on Men’s Rights, Women’s Rights (Mother-in-laws & Daughters), Child rights and Family welfare.

Parents Property

No words could console the ones who were present

Some of the participating NGOs in the dharna were:

What was interesting to note was, most of the movements we caught up with started off as blogs or forum discussions. They eventually grew in number and more liked minded people joined in and formed more organized movements.

Anil Kumar, one of the founders of SIFF was kind enough to share the complete details including the court cases that were imposed on him earlier. Virag, the flamboyant PR Officer for SIFF himself was a victim of abuse by his in-laws and ex-wife. Just to show his “affection” for her, he even wore his marriage suit with a placard which read: MY WIFE GIFTED ME A LAW SUIT!”

Law Suit

Virag; with the Law Suit his wife gifted him. Uma made the suit.

Mithun, the ‘official photographer’ too had a similar story as Virag, perhaps one of the reasons why they get along so well! Kumar Jahgirdar, the ex-husband of Anil Kumble’s wife; was unceremoniously parted from his daughter. Does parental abduction resort to child abuse?

We talk about a lot of injustice that is meted upon women, and the laws are also in place to help and support them. With all the hype surrounding wife beatings, crazy in-laws I think we missed out somewhere, about protecting men. It’s crazy when you hear stuff like a wife putting a rape case on this one person on the first night; then demanding 30K extortion money to keep quiet.

One husband is committing suicide every 10 minutes

Sandip, who heads CRFW has his own story – of his in laws and ex-wife demanding maintenance money to the tune of approximately 60K a month. That is a lot of money to maintain oneself. What does she plan to do with all the money? Really!

What came up strongly Domestic Violence is not a gender issue, men and children are victims too. It could be you, it could be me.

Roshni, holding a banner

Roshni and Savio, from SIFF were there to also throw more light about the movement. In her blog, she discusses a lot of issues pertaining to family welfare. Coming from a background of child abuse herself, she is an inspiration for many women and children. Their son, Judah a gaming enthusiast is also a child activist, who did share a few things with the crowd.

I would also like to make a special mention of Mr. Suresh Ram who heads the Chennai chapter of the movement for all the words of advice and healthy insight into the web of Section 498.

Save Indian Family Foundation, Bangalore is an NGO dedicated to promote the cause of Gender Equality and Family Harmony. We commandeer the cause of those grief stricken families who are victimized by the misuse of laws like Section 498A of the Indian Penal Code, Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act, Section 125 CrPC, Child Custody laws to name a few.

A few other blogs you can visit are:

All India Daughters Protection Forum

Legal Fighter

Unauthorised shadow Prime Minister of India

IPC 498 Misuse

IPC 498 Misuse (Tamil)

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With the indiblogger team

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