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Phir Mile Sur

Another Republic Day comes and goes; and I am still trying to find a meaning on being an Indian. A lot has been talked about our culture, our diversity but I ask myself today do I really care. Does it matter to me when as I blog right now, a lady is being stalked and hunted down by a pack of wolves, a house is getting robbed, another politician has lied his way to the assembly and thousands are starving to death somewhere in Orissa.

I read news clipping on the new version of “Mile Sur Mera Tumhara”; and see us doing the same old things again and again. While we have made half-hearted attempts at spreading the message of patriotism; we tend to forget the ideals laid down by the founding father of the constitution.

In the pages of history perhaps Baba Ambedkar should be held on the highest pedestal, but has been forgotten and sent to the pages where he is only known as a champion of the oppressed classes. Amazingly sidelined by Nehru, this genius only wins votes for the likes Behanji now.

So while we claim to be a “Sovereign Socialist Democracy”; I leave you with this thought.

A good deed a day makes the song meaningful. What good did you do today?

As for the song, Phir Mile Sur, in many ways represents what the youth today represent. Partying hard when they want to but going home at the end of the day to touch mom’s feet. That works for me.

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Memories in a Loyal Trunk

Packing is a funny thing to do really. Far from all the moving business that can get to be a pain especially when you are moving out of your comfort zone. I got so used to this place in Hyderabad. The books were in a place, the alcohol was always there in its designated slot. Seeing the same old things in their place gives you that comfort. Now, I see them all being shoved into boxes and bags.
Of all the shifting that I have done previously, there has been one constant companion – an old trunk. I guess I just dumped all the knick knacks and documents into it over the years. It’s always been there. Though it’s been missing its bolt; I still lug around with it with scotch tapes to keep it closed. While I was dumping more stuff into it, I decided to take a look at what all I had accumulated over the years.
I found my brother’s wedding invite tucked away in a corner. I remembered the day, June 12th 2003 in Bangalore. My whole hostel gang had come for the wedding, and they had come with only one intention - to shut the kitchen down. They ate like pigs and people were just too happy serving them all the more. It was fun being from the ‘ladke waale side’ for once. I only had cousin sisters; and it’s a pain being the ‘ladki waale side’.
I found my old project reports from back in engineering. ‘Kwikpad ver1.0’; was a successful project thanks to the open source community. The professor never realised we had made nothing except, remove the credits but add our own. We changed the colours here are there too. It looked more like a bunch of engineering graduates made it. I still looked at the humongous C code. It still made no sense; just like four years back.
Behold! The greatest con I ever pulled off – the project report of my 8th semester. We had undertaken game theory. For the sheer lack of clue, and lack of any programming skills we made a game. Yes, we made a game somewhat based on monopoly. Though we did use some game theory concepts; it got lost somewhere in all the jazz that we tried to do. I just checked, the site we built along with the game is still active on The Business Quest. For just two programmers from a team of four (Rohit and Subhra had decided they were more the business oriented types); Avanish and I managed to make a decent game which was fun to play. The only thing remaining was, convincing the examiners that this indeed is worthy of an 8th semester project, when was expected was something more research oriented. Well we did pull off the con, and we all aced with 97 out of 100. It was also partly to do with the fact that we handed out CD’s of the game for the examiners kids to play.
Under this report lay, the one I had made for HP during summers in 2007. I had a fun time roaming the craziest of places alone. I guess I am more of solitary traveller. Getting drunk in Belgaum – that’s one thing I shall never forget. You can read it here.
I was going through the greeting cards, the letters I had received, old computer magazine CDs, the cassettes I was still lugging around for no good reason and some old books of my brother. I had accumulated cards I had got over the last 15 years. Yeah, that’s how long I have been keeping stuff. I also came across the photo album my ex had made back in 2005; with some really nice snaps. I had but forgotten this. It was good to see her again.
I found some Polaroid snaps of mine, when I was in 10th class. Man! Did I look like a dork (not that I am not dorky any more). I went through the others things too, some gifts I had received, 10th class marks cards, instructional manual for assembling a PC etc.
I guess wherever I went; I always took a bit of that place with me. And it all came in the trunk, unfailingly. I could never let go of these, its forms who I am now; reminds me of the yester years and the innocence we all leave behind when we grow up. I think now is the time to listen to some ‘puraani jeans’.
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Clenching the Fists of Dissent

Anil's life turned upside down thanks to the court casesThis post should have come a bit early, with the writer’s block I am going through and the fact that I had still get my thoughts in place to write this one; please do excuse me.
I was in Bangalore the previous week for the Social Causes Blogger Meet proposed by Roshni, whose objective was to participate along with Social activists (Men’s Rights Activists) to focus on the Rights of Daughters in their own Natal Homes. Many NGOs were part of this and they also wanted to highlight false allegations against Men and In-laws. If I were to sum it up; it was a half-day’s Conference on Men’s Rights, Women’s Rights (Mother-in-laws & Daughters), Child rights and Family welfare.
Some of the participating NGOs in the meet that was on MG Road were:
Save Indian Family Foundation, Bangalore (and other state chapters)
Children’s Rights Initiative for Shared Parenting, Bangalore
All India Forgotten Women, Hyderabad
Child’s Rights and Family Welfare, Mumbai
What was interesting to note was, most of the movements we caught up with started off as blogs or forum discussions. They eventually grew in number and more liked minded people joined in and formed more organized movements.
Anil Kumar, one of the founders of SIFF was kind enough to share the complete details including the court cases pending on him. Virag, the flamboyant PR Officer for SIFF himself was a victim of abuse by his in-laws and ex-wife. Just to show his “affection” for her, he even wore his marriage suit with a placard which read: MY WIFE GIFTED ME A LAW SUIT!”
Mithun, the ‘official photographer’ too had a similar story as Virag, perhaps one of the reasons why they get along so well! Kumar Jahgirdar, the ex-husband of Anil Kumble’s wife; was unceremoniously parted from his daughter. Does parental abduction resort to child abuse?
We talk about a lot of injustice that is meted upon women, and the laws are also in place to help and support them. With all the hype surrounding wife beatings, crazy in-laws I think we missed out somewhere, about protecting men. It’s crazy when you hear stuff like a wife putting a rape case on this one person on the first night; then demanding 30K extortion money to keep quiet.
Sandip, who heads CRFW has his own story – of his in laws and ex-wife demanding maintenance money to the tune of approximately 60K a month. That is a lot of money to maintain oneself. What does she plan to do with all the money? Really!
What came up strongly Domestic Violence is not a gender issue, men and children are victims too. It could be you, it could be me.
Roshni and Savio, from SIFF were there to also throw more light about the movement. In her blog, she discusses a lot of issues pertaining to family welfare. Coming from a background of child abuse herself, she is an inspiration for many women and children. Their son, Judah a gaming enthusiast is also a child activist, who did share a few things with the crowd.
Save Indian Family Foundation, Bangalore is an NGO dedicated to promote the cause of Gender Equality and Family Harmony. We commandeer the cause of those grief stricken families who are victimized by the misuse of laws like Section 498A of the Indian Penal Code, Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act, Section 125 CrPC, Child Custody laws to name a few.
A few other blogs you can visit are:

Anil's life turned upside down thanks to the court cases

Anil Challa inaugurated the dharna in style

This post should have come a bit early, with the writer’s block I am going through and the fact that I had still get my thoughts in place to write this one; please do excuse me.

The DV act was made to destroy the Indian Family, its perfectly used for that

I was in Bangalore the previous week for the Social Causes Dharna and Blogger Meet proposed by Roshni, whose objective was to participate along with Social activists (Men’s Rights Activists) to focus on the Rights of Daughters in their own Natal Homes. Many NGOs were part of this and they also wanted to highlight false allegations against Men and In-laws. If I were to sum it up; it was a half-day’s Conference on Men’s Rights, Women’s Rights (Mother-in-laws & Daughters), Child rights and Family welfare.

Parents Property

No words could console the ones who were present

Some of the participating NGOs in the dharna were:

What was interesting to note was, most of the movements we caught up with started off as blogs or forum discussions. They eventually grew in number and more liked minded people joined in and formed more organized movements.

Anil Kumar, one of the founders of SIFF was kind enough to share the complete details including the court cases that were imposed on him earlier. Virag, the flamboyant PR Officer for SIFF himself was a victim of abuse by his in-laws and ex-wife. Just to show his “affection” for her, he even wore his marriage suit with a placard which read: MY WIFE GIFTED ME A LAW SUIT!”

Law Suit

Virag; with the Law Suit his wife gifted him. Uma made the suit.

Mithun, the ‘official photographer’ too had a similar story as Virag, perhaps one of the reasons why they get along so well! Kumar Jahgirdar, the ex-husband of Anil Kumble’s wife; was unceremoniously parted from his daughter. Does parental abduction resort to child abuse?

We talk about a lot of injustice that is meted upon women, and the laws are also in place to help and support them. With all the hype surrounding wife beatings, crazy in-laws I think we missed out somewhere, about protecting men. It’s crazy when you hear stuff like a wife putting a rape case on this one person on the first night; then demanding 30K extortion money to keep quiet.

One husband is committing suicide every 10 minutes

Sandip, who heads CRFW has his own story – of his in laws and ex-wife demanding maintenance money to the tune of approximately 60K a month. That is a lot of money to maintain oneself. What does she plan to do with all the money? Really!

What came up strongly Domestic Violence is not a gender issue, men and children are victims too. It could be you, it could be me.

Roshni, holding a banner

Roshni and Savio, from SIFF were there to also throw more light about the movement. In her blog, she discusses a lot of issues pertaining to family welfare. Coming from a background of child abuse herself, she is an inspiration for many women and children. Their son, Judah a gaming enthusiast is also a child activist, who did share a few things with the crowd.

I would also like to make a special mention of Mr. Suresh Ram who heads the Chennai chapter of the movement for all the words of advice and healthy insight into the web of Section 498.

Save Indian Family Foundation, Bangalore is an NGO dedicated to promote the cause of Gender Equality and Family Harmony. We commandeer the cause of those grief stricken families who are victimized by the misuse of laws like Section 498A of the Indian Penal Code, Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act, Section 125 CrPC, Child Custody laws to name a few.

A few other blogs you can visit are:

All India Daughters Protection Forum

Legal Fighter

Unauthorised shadow Prime Minister of India

IPC 498 Misuse

IPC 498 Misuse (Tamil)

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With the indiblogger team

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